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Tuesday, 8 March 2011

Oh Janine this Hurts bad

When hurting so bad and crying waterfalls..why not just speak to  my blog…type it out hopefully will make me feel a tad better..

Only 10 days ago I was chatting on the phone to Janine and we were talking about how great it will be to spend weekends together when hubby and I move back down to Victoria, we joked and laughed and chatted away like we always do-funny how we even touched on the fact that in the years we have known each other we have never had a cross word to say to each other or upset each other.We talked about how much her grandchildren were growing and about my new grandsons arrival. 

THEN…

Janine a  close & dear  friend of 23 years suffered a

massive heart attack on Sunday, today the doctors told the family she was gone it was only the machines keeping her alive..how devastating for them..they all came to say their goodbyes ( me way to far away to do that ).

This poor family has been through hell..Janine lost her husband and the kids lost their dad when he was taken tragically , then a few years later one of their daughters passed away suddenly,leaving Janine and the remaining kids 2girls & 3boys to knit together a life without loved ones..Janine comes from a large family who are all very supportive and wonderful people to be around...Late last year Janines dear mum passed away….

I am so feeling so lost and feeling wrong for feeling lost, when I think of what the poor kids are going through the youngest of whom are twins aged 18.

Janine and I spent so much time together when the kids were young and we lived next door to each other..all them memories are flooding my mind right now. The times we laughed so hard our sides hurt, our many shopping adventures together…the many times we found comfort in each others company and bawled our eyes out..

Can’t stop crying, this is so unfair..oh that’s right there is no rhyme or reason as to why god takes the best..but I think he has his full truly..she was a happy healthy lady who suffered the odd bout of asthma..who is muchly loved by all her children and family  by many many more people she has touched through the years.

My head is pounding away here and I do feel some bit better by typing this out..purely for my benefit – I learnt many years ago that writing down ones feelings in a time of stress/upset is great therapy..my arm does not allow me to pen too much now but typing takes a while but is less painful.

Not so Cheery Vickie

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18 comments:

Anonymous said...

Oh Vickie I feel your pain, I am so sorry to read your sad post and send you lots of quilting hugs.
Some family have so much heartache and it doesn't make sence.
Take care
Christine

Lindi said...

Oh, Vicki, so sad. Hugs for you and for Janine's family. It's a hard time for all of you, made worse because there was no warning.

Wacky Woman said...

Oh Vicki, my heart is crying with you at this time. What a loving tribute to honor Janine here on your blog. Hugs, Marilyn

Chookyblue...... said...

you never know what life is going to throw at you...........HUGS HUGS HUGS

Unknown said...

Oh Vickie,
Just keep on remembering your friend...she shall never die, not really. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and soon we all shall be with loved ones. Wish I had words of comfort...alas I have but a wish to extend a really big, big cyber hugzzzz

Pam

Sarah said...

Oh Vickie - my heart goes to you and her family. There is NEVER a good enough reason when something like this happens... IT is hard to come to grips with but you know you will pick up when you are ready and have allowed yourself to grieve and you can live your life fully like she would have wanted you to.

Doris Sturm said...

I'm so very sorry, for you and the children - I will keep them in my prayers. Good that you can find some relief in writing things down. I know it helps me.

Pauline said...

oh vickie..how sad for them and for you..wish i could give ya big hug right now mate...dear friends are hard to come by....and when they are gone we miss them terribly.....thinking of you all at this time ...
Pauline

Jenny said...

So sorry to hear about your friend Vicki life can be unfair at times.

Joy McD said...

(((((hugs))))) Vickie... so sorry to hear about this loss for you and her family... saying some prayers for you all,
lv,
Joy

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry - you're blessed to have known Janine for so many years and to have so many happy memories.

Anonymous said...

Hello Vickie, my heartfelt sympathy to you and Janine's family...saddened when I read your post.....take care hugs lyn

Quilt Kitty said...

Hi Vickie, so sorry to hear of the sorrow & hurt you are experiencing. Unfortunately with great love for family & friends goes great pain & sorrow when we lose them. It doesn't make it hurt any less but does give you so many great memories to keep Janine & all that made her such a wonderful friend to you alive. My thoughts will be with you, much love Tracee xx

simplestitches said...

big big hugs to you and Janine's family...great memories to treasure even if they are painful at the moment...keep them close.
more hugs...
Julz

Anita said...

So sorry to hear of the lost of your wonderful friend. Just hang onto those memories, the pain & loss will never really go away but it will get easier to handle. I lost a close friend almost 10 years ago and it still saddens me.

Sue said...

Vickie, I've just read this post for the first time. I'm so sorry to hear of you loss. You are in my thoughts.

Anonymous said...

Vickie, I wish I had the words to comfort you, but I don't think they esist, (or I just never found them)
I am so terribly sorry for you and for the family for this loss. I wish you and them lots of strenght.
Dutch hugs

Shantal said...

definitely a brilliant woman taken from us mum.. beautiful lady she is/was.
times like these i wish i was there with you to give you the million cuddles only a daughter can give & grandson for that matter.
xx

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